“Wearing my own hair has been a liberating experience for me! I overcame the self conscious feeling.” Margie
How long have you been wearing wigs?
Approximately 10 years
How old were you when you wore your first wig?
I started wearing wigs at the age of 45years old
What made you first wear a wig?
I started wearing wigs for more flexibility in my hairstyles. I had worn the same weave style previous to wigs and wanted to try different looks.
Why did continue to wear wigs for so many years?
I continued to wear wigs because my own hair was thin due to a thyroid condition and I did not feel comfortable wearing my own hair. Wigs were very convenient and I had a pretty big selection over the 10 years.
Can wigs be addicting?
Yes, I believe wigs can be addicting and I believe that I was addicted to them. I was always looking for different styles, new looks, something different. I would try different colors and end up disappointed, or find a look that I liked ,but eventually I would get tired of it.
What is the most you’ve paid for a wig?
I don’t think I have paid more than $75 for a wig. I would order from several online sites and stores but would look for ones that were on sale or reasonably priced. I received discounts and coupons. It was important to me not to spend too much.
Collectively, how much do you think you’ve paid for wigs?
I would say around $1500.
Do you name your wigs?
I wouldn’t name them personally, but I would refer to them by the name the company gave them. It was fun.
Describe your favorite wig
I wore the same style the last five years, a very short straight style. My favorite color was 1B.
How did your husband feel about you wearing wigs?
I was wearing this short style when I met my husband. After we had been together for a while he would make comments about wanting me to wear longer styles. I tried a few times, but I wasn’t use to them anymore, so I kept my short style. Every now and then he would make comments that I considered negative, but I continued to wear what I liked and felt comfortable with.
What is one good thing about wearing a wig?
One good thing about wearing wigs was the convenience. They were no maintenance and I could take them off at night.
What is one bad thing about wearing a wig?
One bad thing about wearing a wig, depending on the style, they would get hot. I found this to be true when I wore the longer wigs.
What made you stop wearing wigs?
I stopped wearing wigs because I grew irritated with them. I didn’t want anything on my head and I was always hot, even with the short ones. I think going through menopause had a lot to do with it. I had toyed with the idea of wearing my own hair for over a year and felt it would be less complicated and definitely more comfortable.
What were your feelings the first time you stepped outside without a wig on ?
I was very very very nervous when I left the salon after getting my hair cut to a shorter length. I felt like people were staring at me and I was very self-conscious about the thin areas around my temples.
What were people’s reactions after seeing you without a wig on?
Peoples first reaction was “you cut your hair!”. Then came either, I like it or some folks even had the audacity to say they like the wig better. These folks opinions did not matter to me so I had no problem letting them know that I could care less what they liked better!!
How does your husband feel about you rocking your natural hair?
My husband always preferred a longer look. He was out of town when I had my hair cut and his initial reaction was not positive. In all honesty it was hurtful, but I felt strongly about my decision to make this change for me so eventually I got over it. After a few weeks he admitted that he was getting use to the new look.
What is the best thing about wearing your natural hair compared to a wig?
Wearing my own hair has been a liberating experience for me! I overcame the self conscious feeling that I had at first. I am taking better care of my hair and it’s starting to grow. Even though the new growth is coming in gray, I have learned to embrace it. Gives me character!!!
Do you plan on ever wearing a wig again?
I have not worn a wig since I stepped out of the salon in January and I don’t plan on going back to them. My natural hair is Me in all my glory and I love it! I don’t have to worry whether it looks stiff or fake like I did with some of the wig styles.
How would you define your beauty?
That is a very challenging question for me. I’m still defining my beauty. I’m still making changes, not only how I choose to wear my hair but for better health and happier living. So I will say my beauty is “transitional”. I am finally being defined by me! For so long I allowed society and other people to influence how I should look. I am learning to take the lead in loving and appreciating myself for who I am and not placing so much emphasis on what someone else may think.
What advice would you give to a lady who wants to stop wearing wigs, but is nervous?
I would tell her that the nervousness is to be expected because change can be a scary process. Weigh The pros and cons and really try to determine what is holding her back from making the change and then pray for the strength and guidance to make the transition. A very wise woman told me years ago “people, places and things serve a purpose in our lives and then it’s time to move on”. That has been the sum of my experiences with my hair.
At what we will refer to as a ‘seasoned age’, Mrs. Margie took a leap outside of her comfort zone and made a change. I hear so often that at a certain age a person is STUCK in there ways. Well Mrs. Margie isn’t the case! I commend her because it takes ladies a few bad hair styles and a few ok ones until we find a style that suits us; and when we find that hair style that compliments every curve in our face, we tend to stick with it! We may alter it just a tad, adding a little color, cut a layer or two or trim our bangs a new way. Once we, and all who are around us get use to that style, it can be kind of, no VERY scary to introduce a new style. Not only a new one, but a dramatic one such as Mrs. Margie’s transformation. As I look at Mrs. Margies hair styles over the years, no doubt she was beautiful in each one ROCKIN them to the ‘T”. However, when I look at the photo of her rockin’ her short hair cut, embracing HER hair there is something that stands out. There is a glow, a confidence & might I point out cheekbones that I dream of. I salute you Mrs. Margie for being proof that when you embrace who you are , it indeed embraces you back.
Thank you Mrs. Margie for helping me REDEFINE beauty!